Refriending Facebook

Refriend Request

Alright, guess what? Six months after deleting my Facebook, I rejoined. Again. Resist no more; I’m gonna give this relationship another try. And next time I get moody and sour on The Social Network, I’ll deactivate instead of deleting. Because I always return. So why did I cave in once more?

Hello, Everyone

As I wrote last week about the social pressure getting to me, I had two options: Return-Rejoin-Refriend or Resist-Refuse-Retreat. The reasons for signing back up for Facebook are simple. My friends and family are networked together and benefit from the convenience of social utilities: Marketplace, Groups, Pages.

My Kyokushin Karate class has a Facebook Page; no other website exists. I missed out on some engagement there.

Our local Pokemon League has a Facebook Group. When not playing at league meet-ups, my wife enjoys info shared in the Group online. I’ve missed out on that.

And I love the Facebook Marketplace. I’m a sucker for value and amazing deals on gently used stuff that people I’m connected to are selling or buying. It totally replaces Craigslist for me.

Another draw is being able to stay in touch with family living overseas. We email, but not much. There’s more staying-in-touch on Facebook with photos and posts and such. I’ve missed that too.

Those are just a few examples; there are more! Practically, everyone is on Facebook. Most of all, my friends and family are there. It’s the easiest way to share photos with them.

I explain this more in my blog post from last October. It sums up why I am rejoining Facebook again.

To see how cyclical my Facebook relationship has been, first joining 10 years ago, here it is for the record, so far:

  1. First Account: Fall 2009 – Spring 2011
  2. Second Account: Summer 2011 – Fall 2015
  3. Third Account: Winter 2015 – Spring 2018
  4. Fourth Account: Summer 2018 – Spring 2019
  5. Fifth Account: Fall 2019 – ?

Each time I deleted my account (never just deactivated), I only stayed off Facebook for 3 to 6 months. Through all my back-and-forth, my wife has remained on Facebook for 10 years, despite all the privacy woes and the like. She’s never been hurt or hacked by it. Instead, I’ve seen her benefit and enjoy it overall.

Friend Request

I know Facebook is not without its flaws. I’ll focus on the positives and be careful to view the bad in the balanced light of the good. Granted, there will likely be more data breaches, security scandals, and privacy problems. And I’ll probably grow tired of the memes and melodrama. Cat videos, though, I could use more of.

Facebook has the market cornered on connecting online with people I care about. It has its upsides! So instead of beating Facebook, I’m joining.

Extra: Do you remember the movie The Social Network starring Jesse Eisenberg? I love that movie. I think I’ll watch it again to commemorate my return to Facebook. Is that cheesy or dumb? Well, I do that sort of thing sometimes. I’m one of those weird human persons, ya know?

Have you or anyone you know ever quit and rejoined Facebook? Comment below, or write to me here! Thanks for reading!

10 thoughts on “Refriending Facebook

  1. Nooo! Just kidding.

    I’ve never deactivated or deleted (although I’m tempted to every day), but I do find some value in it. I completely understand the desire to go back. I do find that Groups can be a good thing and my son’s school and neighborhood have Pages with updates. So yes there are positives when it comes to stuff close to home.

    I do, however, set pretty strict ground rules:

    – I don’t have the app on my phone. I only access it through laptop or desktop.

    – I use Newsfeed Eradicator for Chrome to block everyone’s political rhetoric and other useless stuff.

    – I only check it at certain days and times during the week to stay organized and thwart the obsessive nature of FOMO.

    I do think it is starting to fade. Fewer people are posting and it seems like more and more people under 30 aren’t even signing up. I know that most of my (college) students aren’t even on it. So the cracks are starting to show. With that said I predict FB will start to ramp up its efforts to addict us even further. For example, they’ve been trying to get a hold of our bank account information for years now. Mark Z wants FB to be “The Internet” for the world. So one day I’ll delete for good. Maybe soon.

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    1. Good points, Brad! And thanks for understanding. I like your balanced use of Facebook and think I’ll be doing just that.

      I agree, cracks have appeared. I feel more like Facebook is akin to email. It’s part of being online and a tool most people just gotta have. It may fade more over time. And I can see younger generations never joining. Facebook could age out.

      Take care!


  2. Just read your blog post…. I don’t know what to think of it… this week, FB made the news because of the speech Zuckerberg gave… and I must say that I’m disgusted more by this guy than by FB…. When this guy will be gone as CEO, I’l reconsider my position… for now, I cannot stand him and since his values are reflected all over the place in FB as a company… I won’t return soon, even if I do suffer somehow for being « apart »…

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    1. What speech? I’d like to take a look. I agree completely with the stance on Mark Z. I truly believe he doesn’t have the best intentions and I wrestle with my moral stance on what he allows to happen world-wide – especially in volatile countries. Real people have gotten hurt on his watch.

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    2. Hey I understand your distrust and misgivings. And I can’t outright discount them. From the bad press/media reports, either Zuck is “Evil” or people just “love to hate” him. My own opinions of Zuck have no personal or direct basis, just media reports. I heard some of that speech and hear most of the news against Facebook. I’m trying to keep it all in balance. I’m tempted to explain more here but am afraid only a longer blog post could address my stance. Take away: I don’t blame ya for being wary of Zuck or Facebook. I’ve been there. I do think Zuck and Facebook have room to improve to say the least. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I respect your opinion! Take care.

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  3. All – I appreciate your feedback and for being civilized in your discourse, not going off ranting and such. Constructive discussion is cool. Thanks for contributing. Y’all help dispel some of the cynicism that’s fueled by internet trolls and incendiary commenters.

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